"Some of the best advice I ever received was this:
'In whatever situation you find yourself, take what
you need and leave the rest behind.' Don’t waste
your energy arguing. Just take what you need and
leave the rest behind. Over the years, I’ve found this
advice works not only for family gatherings and
twelve-step meetings but for the larger project of
spiritual living, too. And the best news of all: this taking what we need and leaving the rest behind isn’t only a one-time thing. We can do it anytime. Looking
back over our lives, we can hear the stories anew,
choosing where to focus our attention and where to widen our view. We can let go of old ways of under-
standing that no longer serve us and we can wiggle our way free, becoming the meaning makers and the
storytellers of our own lives. We get to choose what
we need in a given moment. And what we need gets
to change."
from Take What You Need: Life Lessons after Losing Everything